We all know her. That perfect mom. That mom that ALWAYS comes in looking perfectly coiffed. Her hair is never out of order. Her outfit is perfectly matched right down to her accessories. Her children are clean and well behaved. They have manners. They are just as adorable as she is. Matching outfits at times. Outfits…like things bought together…not just clothes pulled out of a drawer. We are not talking mix and match. We are talking this is an OUTFIT and can only be worn as an outfit. Not a wrinkle in her outfit nor on her face. Eyes that look like they sparkle and have gotten no less than 9 hours of peaceful rest. The mom who packs her kids a healthy balance of organic snacks with just the right amount of locally baked gluten-free perfections. This mom never has bad breath nor coffee stains on her teeth. The mom that makes every holiday party look like a best of the best for Pinterest. Never forgets a birthday party, book club order, bake sale, sports meeting nor permission slip. The kind of mom that makes the entire class full of other mom’s look like cave trolls. Along with her perfect children is her perfect husband. Comes to every sporting event even though he works full time. Never misses a parent-teacher conference. Handsome. Friendly. The woman has it all. Can see her in your mind? Right? Pulls up in her perfectly clean car. Happy. Happy? Happy? Could you be happy in a life of perfection? First of all, NO ONE has it all together. Let’s just give each other a break. Even if such a mom exists they are far and few. Don’t compare yourself. You will have days of greatness and other days when you are lucky to walk out of the house and not be picked up the local fish and game thinking you are Sasquatch roaming about. Even the perfect mom has been there. Let yourself off the hook! There are times when my little girl will drink organic milk and have organic gummies in her lunch. There are other times when we are so busy the van is full of Wendy’s to go bags. I am talking crumpled up bags of red smiling girls in all directions! (In my head I prefer Wendy’s because it is fresh never frozen…how’s that for justification) Life is to short to compare yourself with other moms. They are not in your shoes. They do not have your family. Your situation. This is NOT high school where you have to be in homeroom with the pretty girl. You are YOU! You are created to be just who you are. So pull yourself out of your minivan, mini coop, beater boxcar, Volvo and present your kids for who they are. Smile at everyone because it just makes good sense. Encourage that mom dragging a screaming child carrying a sleeping baby who looks like she has not slept in 8 years. Say hello to the pretty mom who seems to have a perfect life. It can be lonely living in perfection. To the new mom who knows no one introduce yourself. Sit next to her at the next parent meeting. Remember you were the new mom once. Above all else stop the gossiping (which we all know goes on in the pickup line). If you can’t say anything nice keep your lips sealed on your Starbucks coffee cup! Can you imagine what the world would look like if all moms encouraged each other instead of comparing? Find something good in every mom. Even that young mom that has 3 kids with 3 different men. Find something nice to say and if you can’t find something nice, be silent and offer a smile. I am sure she has heard all those whispers behind her back and have seen the nasty glares. A smile will cost you nothing. For the love of all please just be nice. Not perfect. Nice. Be real. Be genuine. Be someone other mom’s look to. Not because you are perfect because you are kind. Raise kind children. Buy organic or don’t buy organic. We won’t judge. Swing by Wendy’s…your secret is safe with me. I will see you in the pickup line…I will be the one with soda spilled on my white shirt.