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Tight is not sexy

Why do we need to be sexy anyway? Sexy is a label given to us by “society.” Personally, I would rather be beautiful…but that is a post for another time!

I was driving to work this morning and I saw a young lady walking like she had Barbie legs….you know the ones I mean. From the 50’s. The old kind that didn’t bend at the knee like the ones that do now. I was thinking perhaps she had on leg braces that I could not see. Then as I got closer I realized her pants were so tight she could hardly move. Can we just agree that TIGHT IS NOT SEXY!!!

For all that is good DRESS YOUR BODY!

Slim fitting is far different from TIGHT!

Can we all just say NO to tight!

If you get marks on your body from your pants or tops….TOO TIGHT!

If you can’t breathe….TOO TIGHT!

If you have to hold your breath to tie your shoes….TOO TIGHT!

If you walk like you have a no knees….. TOO TIGHT!

If you walk like you have a smartphone in your nether regions….TOO TIGHT!

If I can read the size label of your bra….TOO TIGHT!

If I can count your ribs or rolls….TOO TIGHT!

If you are rocking a good old camel toe…TOO TIGHT!

I am not saying we should put on gunny sack dresses from ear to ankle. I am saying dress for you. Dress for your body type and be comfortable. There is nothing SEXY about a girl (or guy) who can not walk like a normal human. We have been fed this plate of garbage from “Hollywood” that in order to be beautiful you need to give up all the goods. No. That is a lie straight from the pit of hell. There is no shame in buying the next size up in order to be comfortable. Beauty is not about size! It is about grace and dignity and squaring your shoulders each day, tossing on a smile and be YOU!

Be comfortable.

Be smart.

Be bold.

Be daring.

Be you.



  1. I love this so much. I agree there is a big difference between a slim flatting fit and too tight and sometimes I have to admit at being agog at some people and how they wear their clothes too tight….um…like they don’t have a mirror maybe?! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub with this x

  2. I couldn’t agree more, I always dress for comfort #blogstravisgander@_karendennis

  3. Confort dressing is always more important Thank you for linking to #Thatfridaylinky please come back next week

  4. Whoo I know this feeling. I keep buying baggy clothes but really want to lose some weight to get back into my tighter clothes again. #PoCoLo

  5. Very true! I read somewhere that if you don’t like your dress size, cut the label out, but never buy the size you’d prefer to be if it doesn’t fit your body. Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts with #Blogstravaganza 🙂

  6. Totally agree! 🙂 #thesatsesh

  7. It takes a lot of practice to truly understand which clothes fit YOU, both meaning your body type and the kind of person you are, your personality and what you want others to see of you.
    Tight it never comfortable, so I guess if someone wears it, they do it for other people to look at something. And boy, few people can really afford it. #Blogstravaganza

  8. haha I absolutely love this. It amazes me when you see young girls wearing clothes that are far “too tight” its like why not go for the next size up, you will look 10 times better!

  9. Pen

    I know what you mean, but I have to confess that I have a lot of tight fitting clothes in my wardrobe. This is not because I want them to be tight, I would rather they were just comfortable, it is just that I’ve put on a load of weight and haven’t got myself a new wardrobe…

    Pen x #AnythingGoes

  10. This is so true! Badly fitting clothes make you look bigger than you actually are. #ThatFridayLinky

  11. Totally agree- very well said! Often tight is the opposite of sexy I find! Since becoming a mum I avoid tight clothes at all costs and instead try to dress classy and dignified for my new shape. Of course this is also the perfect excuse to go shopping!

  12. I hate too tight, as I feel uncomfy! I remember being so annoyed a pair of Top Shop jeans just were too tight, even though a similar pair were fine!! Had to take them back. Thanks for sharing with #bloggersbest x

  13. Allan M

    Funny how we spend all of our lives being conditioned to associate certain styles of clothing with attractiveness.

  14. #thesatsesh sorry for the later comment, i always think that ‘being you’ as you mentioned is more important. some people feel good in tight, its not for everyone or every age but i guess that is some peoples ‘you’.

  15. I completely agree. There is nothing worse than feeling like you can’t sit down or move for your clothes and “squished into” has never been a good look. Fab better to love our bodies as they are and dress to fit our shape. Thanks for linking up with us for #DreamTeam x

  16. It’s crazy, isn’t it? Chances are in a slightly bigger size you will look slimmer anyway! Thanks for sharing with #TriumphantTales.

  17. Yes, couldn’t agree with you more! thanks for sharing with #fortheloveofBLOG

  18. Thanks for linking up! Stopping by from the #HomeMattersParty linky.

  19. Rosie

    This is true. I’ve had to purge quite a few things when I gained weight and things got too tight. The look is totally different, not flattering at all!

  20. Zvonimir

    Couldn’t agree more , that tight isn’t beautiful rather it’s ugly .

  21. Well said! And baggy isn’t good either. Some women wear too big long and loose tops to “conceal,” but it actually makes them look bigger. I hate shopping, so I try to maintain a very stable weight so I don’t have to go shop for new clothes! #TrafficJamWeekend

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