889 Days It is hard to believe it was only 3 years ago when my husband and I went to court. We stood before a judge that would decide your fate. It was on this day 3 years ago we found out we would be able to keep you forever. You were cleared for adoption. It would take a few …
National Adoption Month
November is National Adoption Month. This started almost 20 years ago to bring awareness to children in foster care. It first started in 1976 when Massachusetts Governor Michael Dukakis announced an Adoption Week to promote awareness of the need for adoptive families for children in foster care. In 1984 President Ronald Reagan proclaimed the first National Adoption Week. In 1995 …
The Ghost of Adoption…
The Ghost of Adoption… What is the Ghost of Adoption? No matter where I am or what I do there is an invisible person in my life. The car, the house. Church. Always someone else with us. We adopted our girl this past February. Before the adoption, she lived with us for almost 3 years. She moved in with us just shy …
Adoption on Mothers Day…
My husband and I adopted our daughter out of Foster Care. She lived with us for years and knew us prior so there was no great trauma having her move in with us. Her adoption was final this past February. This is my first Mothers Day as a legal mother. I have been her mom for years but this year …
Things not to say…
Ok, the title should really be “Things not to Say to an Adoptive Mom.” After a 3 1/2 year journey my husband and I were able to adopt our little girl out of the foster care system. These are some actual questions I have fielded. 1. You are so lucky you did not have to go through labor. Ok, let …
Gotcha Day
Gotcha Day! Gotcha Day is the day of adoption! We would like to introduce our daughter. A spunky 7-year-old little girl who stole our hearts the second we met her. There are no words in the English language that will adequately describe the feeling of sheer relief to know this process is over. She is our forever little girl. There …
It’s hard to be a foster kid…
Some days it is just super hard to be a foster kid. Yesterday was one of those days. To read a little backstory go here https://viewfromthebeachchair.com/ptsd-in-foster-kids/. Yesterday was one of those days when the suitcase came open. It all started when she woke up. I could tell she was tired. She was not grouchy or unhappy. She just woke up …
