Somedays it is just super hard to be a foster kid. Yesterday was one of those days. To read a little backstory go here https://viewfromthebeachchair.com/ptsd-in-foster-kids/. Yesterday was one of those days where the suitcase came open. It all started when she woke up. I could tell she was tired. She was not grouchy or unhappy. She just woke up hard. …
I am a superhero…
I have superpowers. Some days I feel I am the only one in my house that has these powers. I must confess them here. My x-ray eyes are able to see a jacket right in front of said child that needs it. My superhuman strength allows me to carry a backpack, snow gear, AND a lunchbox. My epic vision allows me …
Our life is not perfect…
It may seem as a blogger we post what we are proud of. Humorous stories. Great pictures. Life staged. Trust me my life is far from perfect. I have dishes in my sink. I have dirt on my carpet. I have dust on my television. I decided to spend the last 24 hours taking pictures of my life. No filter. …
Realistic Expectations…
With the holidays looming I have advice for all foster parents (and even bio parents). Let go of the Hallmark moment expectations. The holiday, birthday or any event is not going to look like those wonderful movies where everyone sits by the tree smiling all getting along or sitting around the table while another child blows out candles and opens …
PTSD in foster kids…
My little one has lived with us going on 3 years. She lived with me when she was just over a year old for an entire year. She spent 2 years with her bio parents. Long enough to cause trauma. Let me say this….kids are resilient….up to a point. Trauma will affect children in different ways. Most kids coming into …
To the tired momma…
I see you. The momma with a diaper bag slung over your shoulder. The momma with the screaming kid. The momma who has not has a solid 4 hours sleep in forever. To the momma with the fluids all over….snot, tears, vomit and even worse…hey, we have all had the diaper fail! To the single momma working so hard to provide. …
#WorldAdoptionDay…
World Adoption Day is November 9th. To raise awareness you are supposed to draw a smiley face on your hand and post it to social media. I did a smiley face on my hand and posted to my media sites. I then began to ponder what that could mean. Why a smiley face? Why not a picture of your …
I had THAT child last night…
Picture it. Nice cool fall day, followed by a lovely evening of kiddy soccer. Happy family arriving in the minivan; fresh cool water in-hand. Smiling faces as the child skips a happy little skip onto the field, waving to the other team and encouraging them along. Ahhhhhh….Can you picture it? Well if that were all true, it would be nice. …
She turns 7…
Two and a half years ago my husband and I started on a journey. We got a phone call from a social worker about a child we had connections to. This child was being taken into protective care and was now a foster child needing a home. Without thought or regard, my husband and I said yes. From early on …
Bubble Hell
In my quest to move more I decided to sign my family up for a 5K. Never having done a 5K I was not sure what to expect. I was a lifeguard for the Muddy Rudder this past fall, which is a 20 mile race with 10 obstacle courses having to do with mud or water. I was at the …